How to be More Confident

Confidence is a skill. That means it can be trained through effort over time. It is also one of the most important soft skills that employers look for. So here are some tips on how you can become a more confident person.

1. Take care of your appearance.

Your confidence is affected by all aspects of your appearance. From your hair to the clothes you wear and even how you smell! So make sure you groom yourself to the point that when you look in the mirror, you’ll think “I look good!”.

Focus on parts of you that people notice first such as your clothes and your hairstyle. Always dress well but don’t forget to be appropriate. Don’t wear casual to a formal event and vice versa. Putting on perfume/cologne helps too.

Remember: The better you look, the better you feel about yourself.

2. Stay healthy.

Your health directly and dramatically affects your confidence so it’s very important that you do your best to stay fit. The confidence boost (and also energy boost) comes from feel-good chemicals known as endorphins.

You don’t need to hit the gym to get fit. There are a lot of exercises you can do at home and you can find out what they are by just Googling. You can also go for activities such running, jogging, hiking, jungle trekking and the such.

Maintaining a balanced diet is important as well. Not only will it improve your health, it will also improve your day-to-day energy level.

3. Be productive!

By accomplishing tasks, whether big or small, you will induce a positive attitude towards yourself and the challenges you face. You will see your strengths and capabilities thus increasing motivation and confidence.

I also recommend being consistent in finishing tasks because your motivation to be productive is similar to momentum. If you allow yourself to get distracted, you will lose that momentum and it will take time to build it up again.

See it this way: When you stop pushing a boulder uphill, it starts to roll down.

4. Be around positive people.

Prophet Muhammad’s quote on ‘how being around good people is akin to being friends with a perfume seller’ sums this up quite well.

Surround yourself with people who are productive and supportive. At the same time, learn from their ways. Emulate what works for you and build yourself up using knowledge you gain from them.

5. Take opportunities and face challenges.

Always keep an eye out for opportunities to test yourself. You need to embrace challenges in order to grow. As you grow, you will nurture your self-confidence.

The more hardships you face now, the easier it will be to face tougher challenges in the future. It’s like learning how to ride a bike. You start with training wheels and slowly train until you can ride without them. So face your challenges!

Here’s a good quote to remember:

A blade can only be sharpened when it is facing a hard surface that continuously opposes it.

6. Love yourself!

Never forget that you are always a Work-in-Progress (WIP) and you will always continue improving yourself. It is wrong to think of yourself as a permanent failure.

Life is hard enough so there’s no need for you to put yourself down. Always remember that you are a human being and you have your own strengths and weaknesses.

7. Support others!

When you encourage and support other people, you get to see the positive effects of your actions. This will give you two things:

i) The understanding that people who receive support become more confident.
ii) The realization of how important it is to have friends who are supportive.

So be kind to others and support them.Knowledge is meant to be shared.


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